BSDM, Bondage.

 When your starting your exploration into BDSM with your parter, clear communication is the first step. It is important to communicate before, during and after BDSM.

Before: discussing what you would like to explore, setting rules, boundaries and a safe word to start. Agree on how you would like to communicate during during sex, for example the Traffic Light System, explained in the video below...

After sex, communicate to your partner about things you enjoyed, would like more of or what you didn't like. The more knowledge you have about yourself and your partner, the more fulling your sexual experience will be.

 

Trust and Respect

Respect of each others boundaries and responding to safe words and agreed communication system is vital for safe play, emotionally and physically. You must each feel safe and empowered, yes even if you are acting in a submissive role.  Even if you are submissive you still have control of the intensity or if you want to stop.  Even if you are tied up with a mouth gag, you have the power to and need a clear way to communicate your needs or if you want the act to stop.

Below we have put together some videos discussing various BDSM acts which beginners might find interesting. 

 

Rope Play

 

 

 

Choking play

 

Wax play